From Surviving to Thriving: 7 Mindset Shifts That Helped Me Go From Burnt-Out Single Mom to Empowered Woman
Hey mama,
If you’re reading this with a half-cold cup of coffee in one hand and a to-do list longer than the Bible in the other, I see you.
I am you.
There was a time when I was juggling three kids, bills overdue, no backup, no sleep, and barely holding it together with some Dollar Tree mascara and blind faith. My gas tank wasn’t the only thing running on empty—so was my spirit.
But something shifted.
Not overnight. Not magically. And definitely not without some tears, therapy, and spiritual side-eye at the universe.
But I learned that mindset isn’t just fluff—it’s fuel.
Here are 7 mindset shifts that helped me go from surviving the chaos to owning my life like the fierce, fabulous, slightly sleep-deprived queen I was born to be:
1. I'm not failing - I'm learning
When you're broke and your life feels like a never-ending mess, it's easy to think you’re doing it all wrong. But every setback? Every “oops” and “how did I mess that up again?”—it’s data. Growth hurts, and learning curves are steep when you're carrying kids and trauma on your back.
2. Rest is not a reward - it's a requirement
I used to wear burnout like a badge of honor. But God didn’t create you to run on fumes. Rest isn’t lazy—it’s sacred. It’s powerful. It’s necessary.
3. I'm allowed to want more - evn if I'm grateful for what I have
You can love your babies and still want something for you. It’s not selfish. It’s survival. Wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful—it makes you ambitious.
4. I choose progress over perfection
Single moms don’t have the luxury of “ideal conditions.” We’re out here building empires during nap time. And you know what? Done is better than perfect.
5. Abundance starts in my mind, not in my bank account
The broke mindset will tell you there’s never enough: money, time, love, opportunity. But abundance starts with believing that you are already equipped, already worthy, and already enough.
6. I am the anchor and the lighthouse
You are not just holding it all down—you are lighting the way. Your kids are watching. Not just your sacrifices, but your strength. Your dreams. Your bounce-back.
7. I don't have to do this alone
You may feel like the lone warrior, but there is strength in community. Whether it’s online sisters, mentors, or just someone who says, “Me too”—don’t isolate.
You don’t need to become someone else to thrive—you just need to remember who you are underneath all the overwhelm.
You are not “just” a single mom. You’re a warrior. A builder. A nurturer. A force.
And your breakthrough? It's coming. Maybe slower than you’d like, but faster than you think.
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